I have a theory. Planning a wedding has some similarities to the pride cycle.
First, you start out excited. Planning a wedding is fun! You get to tell everyone what to wear!! And pick out flowers!! And look for a wedding dress!! And buy new shoes! And take engagement pictures! And send out invitations. And find a place for the reception. And coordinate the rehearsal dinner. And get a photographer... And. And. And...
Which takes us to step two. Overwhelmed. There are too many choices. Too many things to get done. There's not enough time, not enough money, and trying to coordinate everything is like herding cats. If you think it's easy to herd cats then you need to watch this short video. Seriously, watch it, it's funny.
Step three is deciding not to care. No one really looks at the centerpieces. And do I really have to have food? Well, if I'm not going to do that, what the point of having a reception at all? Let's just get married and call it a day. In fact, I don't have plans next week. Let's get married then. So you mentally decide that you're canceling everything. But then step four kicks in.
Sentimentalism. But, if I don't have a reception, I can't have a Daddy Daughter Dance. And what's the point of buying a dress if no one is going to see it? And I've always wanted to have great pictures of my wedding day to remember forever. No! I have to have a wedding reception! It's so fun to plan them!
And the cycle begins again.
Saturday, April 17, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Registering
So, I had this idea of how registering would go. I've always been a fan of home goods, but most of the time when people try to pick something out for me, I wonder if we've ever met. Do I seem like the person that would really like a frame with cute/trying too hard to be touching sayings on it? Or the person who would enjoy having cups with fish painted on them?? Because I'm not... So the thought of being able to have people buy me things that I picked out- best idea ever!
Well, registering did not live up to my expectations. IT EXCEEDED THEM. We made the mistake of looking around for things we wanted before starting the registration process. I say it was a mistake, because it was a total waste of time. One we had the gun in our hands, we just scanned things that caught our eye, and ended up with a lot of things we didn't even know we wanted. It was so much fun!! It's been fun to check in and add more things online, too.
While I thought it was fun, I was exhausted at the end of it. It had all the fun of shopping with someone else's money, but no shoppers high at the end (you know, when you take your new purchase home, take it out of the packaging, find a place for it, know that that your life is better because you have something new, start to wonder if you paid too much, or if you really like it after all. Am I the only one with a shoppers high? really?). So, it is an exercise in delayed gratification, something I am still trying to learn.
I think the best part of registering was it gave Steve and I a chance to pick things out together, and made me imagine myself cooking a wonderful dinner for him in my super cute apron (hint: it's on the list at Bed Bath & Beyond- buy it for me and I'll love you forever) in my shiny new pans and serving the meal with matching pot holders and coordinating dishes. In reality, I will probably be eating something HE cooked, or eating something I defrosted, but a girl can dream, right?
Well, registering did not live up to my expectations. IT EXCEEDED THEM. We made the mistake of looking around for things we wanted before starting the registration process. I say it was a mistake, because it was a total waste of time. One we had the gun in our hands, we just scanned things that caught our eye, and ended up with a lot of things we didn't even know we wanted. It was so much fun!! It's been fun to check in and add more things online, too.
While I thought it was fun, I was exhausted at the end of it. It had all the fun of shopping with someone else's money, but no shoppers high at the end (you know, when you take your new purchase home, take it out of the packaging, find a place for it, know that that your life is better because you have something new, start to wonder if you paid too much, or if you really like it after all. Am I the only one with a shoppers high? really?). So, it is an exercise in delayed gratification, something I am still trying to learn.
I think the best part of registering was it gave Steve and I a chance to pick things out together, and made me imagine myself cooking a wonderful dinner for him in my super cute apron (hint: it's on the list at Bed Bath & Beyond- buy it for me and I'll love you forever) in my shiny new pans and serving the meal with matching pot holders and coordinating dishes. In reality, I will probably be eating something HE cooked, or eating something I defrosted, but a girl can dream, right?
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Update
Special thanks to Amy for all the topic ideas ;)
So the wedding plans are coming right along. Finding a dress was quite the ordeal! Of course, there wasn't a dress with a sleeve in the whole city, at least not a pretty one, (and PS, David's Bridal, when you say you can put sleeves on any dress, and then bring out a thin strip of netting? Not acceptable!!) so I started my hunt online. I had found one that I loved for a great price, but wanted to try a few more on just to be sure I liked the shape. This store didn't allow returns, so I had to be sure!! So I decide that I will try some dresses on while I am in Phoenix visiting my college roommates. When I got to her house, I pulled up the website to shoe them the dress-and it was closed. The company had shut down!! I freaked out!! But luckily, we went to the dress store and found THE dress! I love it!! I make my roommates help me put it on all the time (they're probably glad I'm moving out soon!) and I love it. I especially love the headband with tons of rhinestones, and the best part- it came free with the dress! I love wearing it, I totally understand this episode of Friends:
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Next post- registering. Let me just say- funnest thing ever!!!
So the wedding plans are coming right along. Finding a dress was quite the ordeal! Of course, there wasn't a dress with a sleeve in the whole city, at least not a pretty one, (and PS, David's Bridal, when you say you can put sleeves on any dress, and then bring out a thin strip of netting? Not acceptable!!) so I started my hunt online. I had found one that I loved for a great price, but wanted to try a few more on just to be sure I liked the shape. This store didn't allow returns, so I had to be sure!! So I decide that I will try some dresses on while I am in Phoenix visiting my college roommates. When I got to her house, I pulled up the website to shoe them the dress-and it was closed. The company had shut down!! I freaked out!! But luckily, we went to the dress store and found THE dress! I love it!! I make my roommates help me put it on all the time (they're probably glad I'm moving out soon!) and I love it. I especially love the headband with tons of rhinestones, and the best part- it came free with the dress! I love wearing it, I totally understand this episode of Friends:
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Next post- registering. Let me just say- funnest thing ever!!!
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